Sitemap - 2023 - The Shoulds by Francesca Specter
Issue #59: How to build your nest
Issue #58: Embracing your life as it is, right now
Issue #57: The great flaking debate
Issue #56: Meeting a partner in your thirties (and beyond)
Issue #55: The three types of perfectionism
Issue #54: What Saltburn's Emerald Fennell taught me about being an outsider
Issue #53: How do you solve a problem like a weekend?
Issue #52: Am I ready to take a risk?
Issue #51: What's your definition of a friend?
Issue #50: Reflecting on my early thirties, so far
#49: Seasonal routines, self-acceptance & the magic of looking up
Issue #48: Past Lives, and the lure of reconnecting with your childhood crush
Issue #47: Forget chasing happiness – why 'content' is good enough for me
Issue #46: The lifelong desire to become a 'We'
Issue #45: For every single woman who’s ever been told she’s the problem
Issue #44: How to make a major life decision
Issue #43: 'You should read so-and-so,' or the trouble with recommending stuff
Issue #42: Dealing with the fear that it might not work out
Issue #41: What a sober rave taught me about comfort zones
Issue #40: Staying friends when your lives look really different
Issue #39: How to be a good listener (even if you think you already are)
Issue #38: How to escape your summer FOMO
Caggie Dunlop on navigating anxious attachment in relationships
Issue #37: Toxic individualism – or the downside of getting your own way
Adam Gopnik on being a writer who hates quiet solitude
Out of office – plus, some newsletters that aren't mine
Dr Nicole Lepera says changing your relationship with solitude begins with the body
Issue #36: How I accidentally became Anne Hathaway in my early 20s
Amy Key: The poet's life lessons, inspired by Joni Mitchell
Issue #35: 5 loneliness 'cures' that have nothing to do with other people
Susan Cain: The 'Quiet' author on free falling through her early 30s
Issue #34: What a clingy dachshund taught me about anxious attachment
Issue #33: Putting down roots (after a year spent avoiding commitment)
Issue #32: A gentler approach to treating insomnia
Issue #31: The right to be boring (whatever your life stage)
Issue #30: What turns dining alone into a positive experience?
Issue #29: How to slow down and savour the good things
Issue #28: 19 ways to feel more connected to others (without moving to a tiny village)
Issue #27: Question the fear, and do it anyway – how to make curiosity your superpower, in 5 steps
Issue #26: Friendship as an act of rebellion
What's a book you wanted to love – but hated? 📚
Issue #25: Failure, served three ways
Issue #24: Everyone's talking about Therapy Speak, but what is it?
Issue #23: What's the point of beauty?
Issue #22: Timelines, settling down and the fear of falling behind
Issue #21: Could I move to a different country?
Issue #20: The radical act of admitting you care
March events: Master the art of saying no & how to be better with money 🌼
Issue #19: Three lessons I’ve learnt about confidence (& some news)
Issue #18: How to support parent friends (if you don’t have kids)
Issue #17: How to walk yourself happier (in 7 steps)
Issue #16: Instagram is giving me The Ick
Do you love – or hate – Valentine's Day? (Comments on)
Issue #15: Doing it for the Meet Cute
Issue #14: When did wintering become an elite sport?
Issue #13: Are you 'sober curious'?
Mimetic desire, or why you actually want the things you want 👯♀️
Issue #12: How I failed to learn piano. Twice.
Issue #11: Are break-ups contagious?
Open thread: What's the best break-up advice you've ever been given?