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I'm taking a summer break – here's how I'll be spending it

More time in my nest, less self-sabotage.

Jul 4 •

Francesca Specter

Issue #80: How an alternative dating app went mainstream

And what it says about fatigued online daters.

Jun 27 •

Francesca Specter

Issue #79: Has loneliness become a business opportunity?

And is that really such a bad thing?

Jun 20 •

Francesca Specter

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Issue #57: The great flaking debate

Dec 7, 2023 • Francesca Specter

Issue #60: The simple life lesson I learnt on my yoga retreat (that has nothing to do with yoga)

Jan 11 • Francesca Specter

Issue #50: Reflecting on my early thirties, so far

Oct 19, 2023 • Francesca Specter

Issue #17: How to walk yourself happier (in 7 steps)

Feb 23, 2023 • Francesca Specter

Issue #20: The radical act of admitting you care

Mar 16, 2023 • Francesca Specter

Issue #33: Putting down roots (after a year spent avoiding commitment)

Jun 15, 2023 • Francesca Specter

Issue #78: The one 'stupid' question I always ask

Language is power, wrote Angela Carter. Sure – but it shouldn't be a private members' club.

Jun 13 •

Francesca Specter

Issue #77: Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans

Or, how Seth Godin's queue analogy gave me an existential crisis.

Jun 6 •

Francesca Specter

Issue #76: Can we be each other's parallel lives?

We’re taught to compare and covet what others have – but what if we share in it, instead?

May 30 •

Francesca Specter

Issue #75: Remembering how to be alone, when you're out of practice

Or, a tale of two easyJet flights.

May 23 •

Francesca Specter

Issue #74: Why I quit therapy (and then started again)

Plus, should therapists intervene if clients can't afford their sessions?

May 16 •

Francesca Specter

Issue #73: I'm in my ‘Hey, Bridge, how's your love life?’ era

Why this question makes me want to invent a long-distance boyfriend.

May 9 •

Francesca Specter

The problem with giving 100 per cent

'If you aim to give your whole self to everything, and to everyone, then what's left for you?' asks Natalie Lue, in this month's intergenerational…

May 2 •

Francesca Specter

The Shoulds by Francesca Specter

The Shoulds by Francesca Specter

From Alonement author & podcaster Francesca Specter, an online publication examining the hidden rules & stories that shape our lives.

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