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Issue #46: The lifelong desire to become a 'We'
When being a party of one doesn't feel like enough.
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Issue #45: For every single woman who’s ever been told she’s the problem
'It’s not you, it’s Generation Distraction – it’s the undefined situationships, the DM slides, the myriad dating apps that build their business models…
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Issue #44: How to make a major life decision
Plus, why 'micro-choices' like selecting the right sandwich are more significant than you think.
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Issue #20: The radical act of admitting you care
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Issue #17: How to walk yourself happier (in 7 steps)
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Issue #23: What's the point of beauty?
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Issue #18: How to support parent friends (if you don’t have kids)
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Issue #13: Are you 'sober curious'?
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Issue #43: 'You should read so-and-so,' or the trouble with recommending stuff
The art of making personalised suggestions. Plus, what the 'Discover' algorithm will never get right.
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Issue #42: Dealing with the fear that it might not work out
In creativity, and in love, it’s hard to accept that it might all melt away to nothing. But maybe we can learn something from sandcastles.
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Issue #41: What a sober rave taught me about comfort zones
From ice-cold showers to dancing sober, is there value in embracing discomfort for discomfort's sake?
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Issue #40: Staying friends when your lives look really different
Mind the empathy gap – when you scroll through hundreds of potential partners on Hinge every week, while your best friend married their first ever…
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Issue #39: How to be a good listener (even if you think you already are)
The 'neglected stepchild of communication' can enrich your relationships, your work and your happiness. Here's how to get better at it.
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Issue #38: How to escape your summer FOMO
...without even leaving the country. Plus, the trap of 'time pressure', situational loneliness and advice from Four Thousand Weeks author Oliver…
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Caggie Dunlop on navigating anxious attachment in relationships
The former Made in Chelsea star shares her personal experience in this week's podcast episode.
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The Shoulds by Francesca Specter
The Shoulds by Francesca Specter
From Alonement author & podcaster Francesca Specter, an online publication examining the hidden rules & stories that shape our lives.
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