The Shoulds by Francesca Specter

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The impossible task of being a woman
'You’re a walking tangle of contradictions. Most of us are. How could we not be?'
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18 things I do to procrastinate
Ranked worst to best. Plus, how (and why) we put off doing the Very Important Project.
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The art of writing about your personal life
...without losing friends and alienating people. Eight lessons on writing from life, plus useful techniques and boundary-setting advice from authors.
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Issue #57: The great flaking debate
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Issue #67: Reframing the choice to be childfree
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Writing prompts to help you plan 2025
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The joy of doing nothing (while travelling)
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Places to gather, places to be alone
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Issue #87: IKEA, and the myth of compartmentalisation
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Ch-ch-ch-changes – and how to embrace them
In your own life, and in other people's.
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How to take your writing seriously
From creating a regular practice to finding your people, seven steps to turn your writing into a craft. Plus, expert tips and resources.
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The joy of doing nothing (while travelling)
A dispatch from Mexico, pt. ii.
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Solo(ish) travel in Mexico City
Embracing the middle way. Plus, the best solo travel advice I've ever received.
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Places to gather, places to be alone
And the places in between.
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The life lesson I learnt on my yoga retreat (that has nothing to do with yoga) part two
Learning to communicate, and stop hiding. With a guest appearance from my inner child.
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Writing prompts to help you plan 2025
I plot my whole year in the five days between Christmas and New Year. Here's how.
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The Shoulds by Francesca Specter
The Shoulds by Francesca Specter
From Alonement author & podcaster Francesca Specter, an online publication examining the hidden rules & stories that shape our lives.
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